And – well, if you DON’T post about it, then you aren’t really posting about the whole family and living your lives. Because the monster is there, isn’t it, and it’s part of the family and how you live your lives. To avoid it doesn’t make your blog less about the cancer. It doesn’t make your readers think about it any less. It just puts it all underground, leaving it all the scarier because we are left to our imaginations and fears, and the knowledge that the big monster is THERE, even if we can’t see it clearly.

So. You are right, we can’t talk about it all the time. But we can define it, and come to terms (of an angry, bitter sort) with it, so that the darkness doesn’t lurk there, demanding our attention at all times.

It’s not control, and it’s not a triumph… but it’s taking things face-forward, on our own terms.

Which, I suppose, is something.

(Bless you both, my loving thoughts are with you and your family… and please take care of yourselves, while you are caring for others…)